Thank you to everyone who emailed or commented with sanity-saving wisdom! Sometimes what you need most is to know that other people do have the same problems/issues/concerns/fears that you do. After I mustered my emotions and scaled down from royally pissed to ticked off to irritated, M & I had some discussion about what occurred last weekend and after things like "obtuse" (my word) and "martyr" (his) were said, we were able to clear the air a bit. I can't say he'll actually do any better (thank you Stacey for your example!) but at least I have an inkling of where he is coming from now.
Things have been a lot calmer this week, not the least because most everyone is healthy again. A's pink-eye seems to have cleared up WITHOUT infecting anyone else (and I don't have to give him eyedrops 3x/day anymore, which was getting physically impossible anyway), and Easter weekend is nigh. Easter is my favorite time of the year, because of everything it signifies and promises about renewal.
As part of our family Easter celebration, we usually host my entire family and at least part of M's here for Easter Sunday brunch, but this year with my mom just recovering, we decided to go to Naples. My wonderful sis-in-law, who is a professionally-trained chef, is hosting dinner both Saturday and for Easter Sunday. Go Nicole!! She is a stupendous cook and she & my brother are excellent hosts. Plus their house is totally kid-friendly. So it looks like I'll be both relaxed and well-fed this weekend, which are two of my favorite states of being.